Sorry

Hello Everyone

It seems that one of the hardest words to utter truthfully and honestly in the English language is the word ‘Sorry’.  So much is packed into that word that it could take an essay or book to unravel if time allowed, and that is not including the emotions that come with that package.  Liars and conmen use it all the time, for it calls upon the receiver to make allowances for bad behaviour, but in effect they are seeking a ‘get out of jail free card’ to escape consequences for their actions.  Children usually learn that at an early age, but do they really fool their parents?

One of my pet hates is the institutional apology.  The hospital, children’s home, maternity ward, church etc sometimes make a public apology for having messed up.  But who is actually sorry?  Is anyone?  It sounds more like they are ‘sorry’ for having been found out.  However, they say they will learn from their mistakes and not let it happen again. Good for them!

‘Sorry’ is one word that you very rarely hear in the counselling room, even in couples counselling.  That might sound strange, but that word, if said, it is an admission of failure.  There is the fear of having that admission regurgitated and used against you at the next argument, and the next, and the next etc.. Much easier and safer not to say it in the first place. Just get your point of view across and be prepared to compromise.

But – — when it is truly meant and offered then it is a most powerful word in the restoration of relationships.  It is shorthand for remorse, repentance, and wanting to do something to make amends.  It is wonderful to hear.

So I know this newsletter is a bit late in sending it out this month.  Sorry!

The usual updates are there.  Planting by the Moon and Astrology for Healers and Therapists.

Every blessing and have a great Easter.

John